Why some gay men marry women

I understand people try things. Why gay men marry women When he got married, Jim knew something was different. It was a big thing of the day. They managed to marry straight, despite their same-sex attraction. This post discusses straight women married to gay men—from the wife's perspective.

Many straight women married to gay men consciously choose to do so with their eyes wide open. There are plenty of wives who choose to stay married even after finding out later in the marriage that. And he got so angry when I brought it up. But I still went to Robert to talk to him about it because we were two weeks away from getting married.

Experiences of Gay Men

But from then on, I noticed things were a little bit off. And it was all pretty acceptable out in California. The petitioners argued that “man-woman marriage laws” are not discriminatory, because, look at them! He knew he had been attracted to men in adolescence, but it was something he tried not to think about.

People were trying all kinds of things. I was not one of the people to experiment with that, but it was nothing that was unheard of. Orgies were going on. We got married in There were issues with him from the start, but nothing to make me think that he might be gay.

Who better to speak with about this than Bonnie Kaye? There was a lot of sexual promiscuity. There were guys showing up at the door, and Robert would make comments about how guys found him attractive. He was a karate teacher, martial arts, a strong guy, looked like Sylvester Stallone, and gay was not one of the issues I thought about with him.

I was mesmerized by him because he was very charming and strong and everything that I was looking for at the time. Our discussion was wide-ranging, beginning with her own marriage to a gay man and progressing to how she was able to move on post-marriage, eventually becoming a rock for other women in similar situations.

Then somebody who was part of my social network informed me, a couple of weeks before we were supposed to get married, that he had suspicions that Robert was gay. I was on the beach a lot in those years, meeting a lot of different people. I will post part two, the aftermath, in a few weeks.

We had sex early in the relationship, and we fell in love. There was no information out there. There was no Internet. Posted February 11, Reviewed by Lybi Ma. Bonnie has spent much of her adult life first living with and attempting to love a gay husband and then helping other women in the same mis- marriage situation.

Some gay men who marry women may later identify more clearly with their sexual orientation, leading to discussions and decisions about openness in their marriages or eventual transitions to same-sex relationships. I grew up in the '60s in California, in Santa Monica.

Some closeted men may hold a negative perception of the gay community. Bonnie, could you tell me a little about your story? What are the details of your own marriage and how did you cope?